I’ve been avoiding this. Over the last 6 months, I’ve had this conversation many times, with many different people. But to put the words into writing and publish them on my blog is a whole other thing.

You can’t ever really know where your life will take you, or how one decision might impact another. But when a change is needed, things just don’t quite feel right until you land on a decision. You can have a good think, a good sleep, a good talk, and then take a step forward.

My step forward was to leave the school counseling profession.

For now.

I am still a school counselor. And I really, truly hope to return to the profession when I’m good and ready. But right now, I am putting family first, which means sacrifices that I never thought I would make.

If you told me when I landed my first school counseling job that in 8 years, I would consider leaving the profession to be a better mom and wife, I would have laughed in your face. Seriously.

My reasons for leaving are quite varied, but it boils down to balance. My life felt very out of balance and I needed to do something. So I did.

I know not everyone understands my decision and that’s okay. What I understand is that this profession is really freaking hard and demanding, and I also understand that our current climate in education makes what we do even harder.

I’m choosing to maximize my self-care (something I have always struggled with), and I can’t wait to see what things I will find along the way!

As for this blog, it’ll still be here. I have lots of lessons I want to share and topics I want to write about, so stay tuned.

Thanks for reading and understanding. Take care of yourselves. 🙂

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Mindfulness: Simplicity and complexity in one lesson

When I returned to school after missing the first 8 weeks to take care of my nugget, I spent a lot of time trying to catch up. I’m still catching up. But one thing I couldn’t wait to get back into – visiting classrooms to do lessons! Still, I had to figure out how to start, since my beginning of the year wasn’t the beginning for everyone else (Does that even make sense? Sorry, I’ve got the mom brain).


Anyway, I landed on mindfulness. Why? I am often incorporating mindfulness techniques in my individual sessions with students, and even in some form during classroom lessons. Basically, my students need it! And I decided it was best to teach it more explicitly to 100% of my students.

Here’s what I did:

To keep things simple, I introduced the topic in all K-6 classrooms, and stuck to doing 3 basic mindfulness activities.

  1. Mindful moment – we practiced keeping our bodies still and quiet while we listened to silence. I called it a listening game that began with a chime sound, and challenged them to listen to the chime as long as they could hear it, and then to stay quiet for a while longer to listen to any sounds in the room. They shared what they heard after the game was over, and we discussed if staying still and quiet was hard for any of them, and it was!
  2. Deep breathing – I used my mini sphere ball to help with the inhale/exhale rhythm. I knew this was going to be difficult for some of my students to do without getting silly, so I instructed them to just bring their focus back to the ball and no one else.
  3. Relaxation – in the younger grades, I played relaxing music while they each colored their own mandala however they wished. In most classes, this was the activity that really seemed to bring their energy to a nice, calm state. In the older grades, I played relaxing music while I read a guided imagery exercise about a magic carpet. The students could sit or lay around the room however they were comfortable.

There were of course some variations in what I did depending on the grade level. In K-1, I had the students do belly breathing while laying flat on the floor and watch their hands rise and fall with each deep breath. In K-3, I read the very short story called Take the Time by Maude Roegiers to help us talk about how mindfulness can help themselves feel better.  And in grades 4-6, students completed a stressed vs mindful emotions worksheet, to help us discuss how mindfulness strategies can help them reduce stress and focus on what’s important.

Also in grades 4-6, I asked each student to do an “exit ticket” by writing on a post-it about how mindfulness can help them. This was a way to summarize the lesson, see what they learned (what “stuck” with them), and to use as evidence about why mindfulness is important for our students to learn and practice. I have been blown away by many of their thoughtful responses!

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While I was a bit worried how the lessons would go; if students or teachers would think it was silly or a waste of time, I have been very impressed so far! Many students have thanked me for the lesson and said they wish they could do these things everyday (which I tell them they can, of course!), and many teachers have enjoyed the calmness of the lesson and asked for more mindfulness resources to continue to use with their students.

If you would like a copy of the lesson plans I created with ASCA standards and the purpose/skills listed, please click on each link below:

Mindfulness grades K-1

Mindfulness grades 2-3

Mindfulness grades 4, 5, 6

If you would like access to free mandalas to print and color, go here:

These lessons have been so much fun to teach, and leave me with a calm feeling too! Definitely a win-win! Hope you enjoyed reading and find these resources helpful. 🙂

Humor that started with a sandwich


I love reflecting on my day and thinking about the silly or unusual or just plain weird things that students sometimes say. Kids can be weird, huh? That’s what I love about them!

Today, as I reflected on my difficult day in which I was torn in too many directions at once, I recalled this silly conversation…it took place during lunch buddies with six kindergarten students:

Girl (pointing an accusatory finger at me): “Where did you get that sandwich?”
Me (feeling like I’m in trouble with a 5 year old): “My sandwich? From home. I made it.”
Boy: “What?! You have a home?”
Me (trying not to laugh): “Yeah, of course. Do you think I live at school?”
Boy: “Well, you have a bed in your room, don’t you?” (Referring to the rug, bean bag, and pillows in my room.)
Me: “That’s the chill out area. I don’t sleep there.”
Boy: “Oh. It looks like a bed.”

I just can’t help but giggle when I think about it. The pure innocence and curiosity of 5 year olds is absolutely amazing! I’m embracing the humor and resting up for another day! Goodnight all!


Replenishing your well

wishing_well_clip_artI wanted one of my first posts after the welcome to be a meaningful one. What kept popping in my head was the incredible experience I had recently at the annual Health & Wellness Conference at Sugarloaf. I went with my school district’s Health & Wellness Team (I was a last minute addition and I’m so glad I went!). If your district has a team, I definitely suggest joining! It is wonderful networking, sense of community, and you get awesome resources to use!

Anyway, one of the most memorable presentations I saw was by Carrie Stack from the Say Yes Institute. (Check out the website: and check out the Facebook page: The Institute is all about being powerful through positivity. Carrie is an incredible motivational speaker – she’s hilarious! Of the many things she spoke about, I really enjoyed the well analogy. Carrie taught us that we are like a well. The reason a well works is because as water is taken out, water is replenished. Have you ever tried to get water from an empty well? It doesn’t work! We need replenishing too. If we give and give until we are empty, it’s awfully hard to be your best self or do your best work. It’s important to find things that are replenishing for you and do them!

The conference was all about taking care of yourself so you can take care of others. As counselors, we are in the business of giving, and it’s especially crucial that we take time for ourselves and replenish!

So, how’s your well looking? Is it full, half way, or are there cobwebs inside?